The Fall of Paula Dean
If you’ve lived in Savannah for any length of time what so ever, you know about Paula Dean. Paula Dean and her sons are the owners of an incredible empire that includes local restaurants such as The Lady and Sons, multiple TV shows, and over a dozen cookbooks published as best sellers. As real estate agents we are given sensitivity training and ethics classes quite often. We are very sensitive to race based questions, inquiries or comments. Unfortunately the rest of the world, including mega super stars like Paula Dean may not be getting those classes.
I remember Paula Dean in Savannah back in 1990 with her sons selling sandwiches out of the back of a truck. What’s amazing about that Paula Dean against the one you see on TV and in public now is that she didn’t have the syrupy, southern drawl and the word y’all rarely came out of their mouths. Much like most people on TV, the Paula Dean that you see is an image. Her and her sons have given the southern way of life its own caricature. The comments that I’ve heard over the weekend about her using the n-word really didn’t take me off guard. Paula Dean grew up in South Georgia and unfortunately that word was used and is currently used quite often.
I can’t help but think that if Paula Dean and the rest of the world were given classes on Fair Housing, the Code of Ethics classes that we take, and the constant reminders to treat everyone equally and fairly, would they see things differently? I also heard over the weekend that Paula Dean, before she became Paula Dean Mega Star, worked at a bank and also tried to sell real estate. To say that she was likable is an understatement. Her charm and her rise has been an inspiration to all. If the comments that she made turn out to be true, should she be indicted in the court of public opinion as a bad person, or just insensitive? What if she was a real estate agent today? Those comments would certainly cause a repercussion in her holding a license. Chances are she’d lose her license and/or be required to take sensitivity classes. I read a quote from Bill Gates one time that has always stuck with me. He said, “Success is a dangerous thing, it makes smart people feel like they can’t lose.”
Hearing Paula Dean explain herself using the n-word after someone pulled a gun on her at the bank that she worked at had a tone of self righteousness and certainly anyone in that situation may have done the same thing. Whether the young lady who is suing her for sexual harassment and racial comments has a case or not is irrelevant. It has done one thing – It uncovered sores and possible feelings that are far outdated and uncalled for. If the scales of public opinion had good deeds on one side that Paula Dean and her sons have done for the city of Savannah and other places and inappropriate and insensitive comments on the other side certainly the weight of the good deeds would far outweigh the weight of the bad. In America we like to tear down our heros and our public people just to see if they can rise again. Not sure if Paula Dean has what it takes to recover from such a stupid mistake.